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What’s New This New Year, 2018?

As I move out of 2017 and into the new year 2018, I think about how much I have grown over the past year. My view of life has changed greatly.

I find when I come across any challenges I cope with them better. I do not spend a lot of time feeling upset if something goes wrong. I pick myself up and carry on with what I have to do. This way I will be more productive.

My view of life is altogether more positive. It is more difficult for me to have negative thoughts. I automatically look at every new situation in a positive way. My glass is half full rather than half empty.

I look for the best in people. I focus on their good qualities and not their bad. Each person has good and bad qualities and their bad qualities can be improved. People take this as a great compliment when we are able to overlook their weaknesses.

I am also more drawn to positive media rather than negative. The media is constantly filling our minds with negativity so I stay away from it. There are many good things that happen in the world and we don’t often hear about these.

I am more confident than I used to be. I can act without worrying what people think of me and I feel more in control of each situation.

I have learned to be in control of my own happiness and not to rely on others for it. It is up to me to decide to be happy.

What I have noticed the most is the behaviour of others. How people worry unnecessarily and how they could deal with situations in a more constructive way.

Learning personal development where we learn how to grow as a person is essential for a better quality of life. It improves relationships with others and changes our views on how to deal with situations each day. How good our lives will be depends on how we look at and manage situations. I am looking forward to the year ahead and what new challenges it will bring.

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The Steps To Success

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Inspire

What do we want out of life? What are our goals? Having the urge to do something will help us decide and start to work towards what we want. Creating positive feelings helps us start the road towards our achievements. Feelings are the first step.

Motivate

Motivate ourselves into working towards our achievements and dreams. Having a reason to work towards goals and planning how to start achieving them. Planning is the second step.

Act

Taking action in order to achieve is essential to success and getting results. Not only taking action but taking the right action to get the right results. Success depends on how much we put into what we want. We will not achieve anything until we act. Action is the third step.

Succeed

Success is when we have taken the above steps and achieved what we want. This is the final step, a great feeling of accomplishment and we can reap our rewards.

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Using Our Own Products

When selling products, there is a significant advantage in having a passion and interest in what we sell. Showing they work and we want to use them increases the belief in the product for the customer. We can comfortably sell products because we believe what we are saying about the product is correct.

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If we use the products we sell ourselves, we will have a good knowledge of how they work and how to use them. We can describe the features and benefits of each product. For example, if we are selling face cream and we use it ourselves, we can share our experiences of using the product. We will also know how it meets the needs of the customer. We can also back up what is claimed about the product.

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Being able to show how products work gives our customers a feeling of trust towards us and we can be completely honest and upfront about how genuine they are. Genuine products provides a better service to customers and adds value to our business.

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For me, I have a great passion and interest in the products that I sell. If there is something I need, I use my products. The reason is I believe they work and do what they say. I will not sell a product I do not believe will provide customer satisfaction.

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Getting customers to review products they have bought gives me a feeling of satisfaction that the customer is happy with their purchase. It also gives me an insight into the products I have not yet had a chance to use myself. After all, I want customers to be happy and satisfied with the products they buy.


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Personality Disorders: The Psychopath

When studying about different personality disorders, I have learned that Psychopaths are not all dangerous and are not all criminals. Not all criminals are psychopaths. Psychopaths among us can have very successful careers and live very successful lives.

There are different traits of the Psychopath:

  • They are very charming and are very intelligent.
  • They are never shy around others.
  • Everything is about them.
  • They are easily bored and find that they need to have constant stimulation.
  • They are pathological liars, that manipulate and con others.
  • They lack good sense and judgement.
  • They have no guilt, remorse, are callous, without empathy, shallow emotions and are unable to feel love.
  • They have poor control of their tempers.
  • They indulge in sexual promiscuity.
  • They never take responsibility.
  • They feel they are special and superior to others.
  • They are always seeking gratification and reward.

What causes Psychopathy?

The causes of Psychopathy can be due to a number of factors. Childhood experiences and genetics such as deformities in the brain associated with emotions. Psychopathy can start as early as childhood. People who indulge in theft, vandalism, bullying and substance abuse are more likely to be or become psychopaths.

Psychopathy explained:

Psychopaths are very false and superficial. They charm people around them and they use this charm to get what they want. Everything in life is about them, what they want, what they need and they lie and manipulate others into getting what they want. They control others for personal gain and feel no guilt or remorse for this. They are actually unable to connect with other people emotionally and do not care about the needs of others. They are unable to control their temper and it is obvious from bouts of verbal or physical abuse. They are very easily annoyed, irritated and impatient with others. The impulsiveness of the psychopath leads them to take action without thinking, they also can have multiple sexual partners. Sexual partners are more of an ego boost or a conquest to them because they never feel any love or affection for the people they are intimately involved with. When they make mistakes, they will never accept responsibility and they certainly never learn from them. The grandiose view of themselves makes them think they are superior to others and they deserve better than others.

Dealing with a Psychopath:

When dealing with a psychopath it depends on the degree of the condition. It also depends on how involved we are with that person. If they cause significant harm, cutting ties is the best option. They are very clever and can manipulate into seeing that the victim is the bad person and not them. Protecting ourselves is vital as well as getting the support and help we need.


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Rivers, C. (2014). Personality disorders and mental illnesses. [Place of publication not identified]: [publisher not identified], chapter 2 to chapter 5.

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What I Have Learned So Far

Through my journey of personal development, I have learned so much about life and people. It is amazing how learning about human behaviour and how I look at life affects how I cope. Dealing with life before my journey was full of confusion and negativity.

I have learned that I can’t change or control the people around me. People are going to act the way they are going to act. I can’t control how they behave, it is totally out of my hands. I can only control how I feel and react. I know that when people behave in a certain way it is not necessarily anything to do with me but how they feel. I also have learned to deal with people. If I have a relationship with a person that is very difficult, sometimes it is best to walk away. I could spend my life trying to keep people happy, however, it will not change things. Being true to myself is so important.


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Focusing on my own life and goals will lead me to the right path. This gives me something to work towards. Keeping feeding my mind with the right information will lead me to what I want and will give me a positive view of life. Positive thinking is essential. This way I will have very few bad days. When things go wrong I need to keep moving forward and not look back and dwell on it.


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Trying new things and moving out of my comfort zone will give me the confidence to build the lifestyle I want. This will remove any fear and uncertainty that I carry. If I try something and it does not work, there is always plan B, that I have learned from it and can move forward with a different path.


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Believing in myself and working towards my goals is a difficult area for me. I think we all loose belief now and again, it is difficult to think that something exists if it has not happened yet. If I keep believing, I will take the right action towards my goals.


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Action is important for results. Belief will not get me what I want without taking action towards it. Once I have achieved what I want I will have created the foundation for the life I want. The rewards might seem small to start but over time they will grow. It is about taking the right action in the right direction.

These steps will create happiness, health and a good future. Working on improving my weaknesses in these areas will improve my life greatly.

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Personality Disorders: The Sociopath

Sociopaths are not all criminals and are not all violent. They are also not necessarily dangerous. Some people have traits of a sociopath that play a very productive part of society such as being confident, not conforming to social norms and thinking independently. However, there are more destructive traits that the sociopath possesses.


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The characteristics of a person which might suggest they are a sociopath:

  • Do they use people on a regular basis?
  • Do they not have any consideration for others?
  • Do they take from others all the time?
  • Do they constantly lie?
  • Are they always looking for pity and for people to feel sorry for them?
  • Do they take advantage of another person’s kindness?
  • Do they make people feel guilty?
  • Do they get bored easily?
  • Are they very charming?
  • Do they always seek stimulation?
  • Do they use flattery?
  • Do they feel they are entitled to things and that others owe them?
  • Do they blame others for their mistakes?
  • Do they acknowledge any faults or mistakes they have or have made?

If we know someone who has many of these characteristics, it is not a good relationship to be in.

Sociopaths are very charming. They have an over the top sexual appetite and use sex to relieve their boredom. They often engage in risky behaviour. They betray people because they lack any feelings of guilt, shame and remorse. They can be threatening and can harm others. They are very interested in themselves and are great liars. When they deceive others it is a form of power and control for them which they thrive on. They are very intelligent people and often they have a high IQ. They can use this to manipulate others. They lack feelings of balanced people such as love, compassion, conscience, shame and guilt. They do not admit to any of their faults and they love to wear a mask. They will do anything to avoid being confronted and for people to find out the real person.

What causes a person to be a sociopath?

The wiring in the brain is different from the rest of the population. It is not really known what causes a sociopath because they come from all walks of life. There does not seem to be a link to the kind of childhood they had.

Their Goals

The goals of a sociopath are to get whatever they want at any cost, even at the expense of others. What they want can include:

Money

They will manipulate another person to get it, make them feel loved and most likely never ask directly for it. They want things handed to them for free. They live off others because they feel they are entitled to it.

Sex

Sociopaths crave stimulation. They often use sex to relieve boredom. Lasting relationships with them rarely happens and can have multiple relationships at a time. It is entertainment for them.

To get something from another person

They will often use people to do things for them. They will not engage in a relationship unless they get something out of it. They use lying, manipulation and deception to get what they want.

Status and image

This is very important to the sociopath, they want to hide their true nature and they want to be in relationships with people that will heighten their status. They will use these people to cover up their true self. They will go to the lengths of spreading lies to destroy the credibility of others to make them look good.

Control

They love to dominate. They manipulate and deceive others to stay in control. They want to feel superior and will harm others to get this. They hate to lose control and be exposed. People are possessions to them and they can be very paranoid, jealous and possessive.

They always want to win

They take great pleasure out of seeing others fail.

 

Dealing with a sociopath

Normal people have a natural connection to other people. This is because they share the same feelings of the ups and downs of life. When normal people hurt each other, they feel guilty. Sociopaths do not have these feelings.

When dealing with sociopaths it is best to seek help from a professional. Stopping the contact with a harmful person is sometimes the only option. They will continue to manipulate. They will isolate a victim from others and say what they want to portray that it is not them that has the issues. It is best that they know as little about a person as possible. This way they cannot use the victims’ strengths and weaknesses against them and sociopaths are very good at spotting a person’s strengths and weaknesses. Their nature cannot be changed as they do not believe that there is anything wrong with them. They cannot be cured as their brains are wired differently.

Final thought

As I said before, sociopaths are not all criminals. Some people have mild traits and do not commit crimes. However, if a relationship is harmful and destructive it is better to give a wide birth to find peace because there is nothing you can do to change them.

Rivers, C. (2014). Personality disorders and mental illnesses. [Place of publication not identified]: [publisher not identified], chapter 6 to chapter 10.


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