A Letter to Myself

Photo By Louise MacPherson

Dear Louise,

There are a few things I would like you to know to improve your life.

First of all, I would like you to realise that your autistic son will be well supported and cared for. If you think how far he has come. He will have a bright future and every challenge that he comes across, he will be supported through it. He will stay safe because of the wonderful care he is getting.

Your daughter will grow up to be a wonderful woman. Give her all the support she needs with her dreams and educate her. As well as support at school, teach her how to take care of herself, fulfill her dreams and how to live a happy life. Most of all, teach her to be herself.

I want to tell you to forgive all those who have harmed you. You will suffer from bad experiences and treatment from others. When people are nasty, it is usually issues with themselves and their own problems, you are just someone to take it out on.

Keep motivating yourself each day. Fill your mind with positivity so your mind stays healthy and focused.

Set goals. Not just work goals but relationship goals. Work goals are what you want to achieve in your business. Relationship goals are how you treat people around you, where you want your relationships to go and spending time with the people you love. Also, set goals for things you want to have and what you need.

Spend a little time each day doing something you love. It can be as little as a short walk or a cup of tea in a cafe with your favourite cake.

Learn that you are responsible for your own happiness and thoughts. You are completely in control of your life and if something does not work, change it. You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness. Let them deal with their own feelings.

Do things that you want today, there might not be a tomorrow. You don’t know how much longer you will be here.

Be kind and courteous to others. You want to keep your surroundings positive and have friends to count on. Make an effort with your friends and keep in touch, even if it only means a text message or phone call. Let them know you are thinking about them.

Do not worry unnecessarily about things. Your life will take care of itself. Worrying does not change things. Only you have the power to change things that you can change. If it can’t be changed, accept it. Things we worry about do not usually happen so deal with problems as they arise.

Be true to yourself and be kind to yourself. If something is, it is. Don’t let people take advantage of you, be fair to them and also be fair to yourself.

Always be yourself. Do not change for anyone. People have to accept you for who you are. Happiness comes from being yourself and not having to meet other people’s expectations.

Create lots of happy memories so you can look back. Keep a photo album of memories so it is easier to remember them.

Life is a rocky road so keep moving forward and things will work out fine. You will be strong enough to deal with problems and you will be able to maintain a positive outlook. Remember the Law of Attraction.

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What’s New This New Year, 2018?

As I move out of 2017 and into the new year 2018, I think about how much I have grown over the past year. My view of life has changed greatly.

I find when I come across any challenges I cope with them better. I do not spend a lot of time feeling upset if something goes wrong. I pick myself up and carry on with what I have to do. This way I will be more productive.

My view of life is altogether more positive. It is more difficult for me to have negative thoughts. I automatically look at every new situation in a positive way. My glass is half full rather than half empty.

I look for the best in people. I focus on their good qualities and not their bad. Each person has good and bad qualities and their bad qualities can be improved. People take this as a great compliment when we are able to overlook their weaknesses.

I am also more drawn to positive media rather than negative. The media is constantly filling our minds with negativity so I stay away from it. There are many good things that happen in the world and we don’t often hear about these.

I am more confident than I used to be. I can act without worrying what people think of me and I feel more in control of each situation.

I have learned to be in control of my own happiness and not to rely on others for it. It is up to me to decide to be happy.

What I have noticed the most is the behaviour of others. How people worry unnecessarily and how they could deal with situations in a more constructive way.

Learning personal development where we learn how to grow as a person is essential for a better quality of life. It improves relationships with others and changes our views on how to deal with situations each day. How good our lives will be depends on how we look at and manage situations. I am looking forward to the year ahead and what new challenges it will bring.

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Work Ethic

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When I think what makes us successful in anything we do, I feel we have to have a good work ethic. Having the discipline to stay focused and keep a regular work schedule can be difficult, however, there are ways to help.

Do a little bit at a time. Taking time out each day to work on what we want to achieve is a great way to stay focused. Having short intervals of productive work is better than a long spell achieving very little.

Keep a diary. Keeping a diary with specific times when we wish to work is a good way to organise our day. Writing down plans for the day ahead means we are more likely to stick to it. We also know when we are going to do each task.

Do something each day. Work on a task each day as it keeps the momentum going. If we sit back one day, it makes it difficult for us to get back into the swing of things.

To not let distractions affect us. When something happens we should not let this throw us off track. Following our routine regardless of how things are that day keeps our momentum going.

Keep the belief that we will succeed. When we keep believing in ourselves, it keeps the correct mindset to work towards what we want. If we do not believe that we will succeed, we will not work towards our goals.

Plan ahead. When we plan, we know exactly what tasks to do and when. If we do not plan, we risk missing out important tasks for that day.

The Steps To Success

Photo by Louise MacPherson (Dec 2017)

Inspire

What do we want out of life? What are our goals? Having the urge to do something will help us decide and start to work towards what we want. Creating positive feelings helps us start the road towards our achievements. Feelings are the first step.

Motivate

Motivate ourselves into working towards our achievements and dreams. Having a reason to work towards goals and planning how to start achieving them. Planning is the second step.

Act

Taking action in order to achieve is essential to success and getting results. Not only taking action but taking the right action to get the right results. Success depends on how much we put into what we want. We will not achieve anything until we act. Action is the third step.

Succeed

Success is when we have taken the above steps and achieved what we want. This is the final step, a great feeling of accomplishment and we can reap our rewards.

Happiness

Live life to the full.

Love what you do.

Liberate your mind.

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Live your life every day as if it is your last. Do something each day you enjoy no matter how small. Take time for yourself.

Love the work that you do. Work towards the career that makes you happy. Work on your relationships with others.

Feed your mind with positivity. Let go of the past and look to the future. Appreciate the people in your life.

Treating People As Individuals

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Being treated as an individual is something that is important to us all. We all want to be treated as though our wants and needs are important. Individuality means we all have our own thoughts, feelings, and opinions so the actions we take through life are the result of our own choices.

Treating people as individuals encourage us to have relationships with everyone around us without judgement. This way we will not miss out on a relationship that we could benefit from greatly. Great friendships can come from relationships with different kinds of people from all walks of life. We could really learn from each other and share our opinions. When we judge we never get the chance to know other people. We never learn what they are really like and who they are as a person.

It is everyone’s right to be treated as an individual in a fair and just society. It is a more interesting world when we are treated as individuals because we can contribute in our own way by recognising and using our skills and gifts. It gives us our own identity and we can find our own place. We need different kinds of people for different roles in society. Being an individual allows us to express ourselves. When we are really good at something, we can use it and be recognised for it.

When we are treated as an individual, our happiness will be higher, we will feel more confident and it is giving us respect. Being ourselves creates unity as well as preventing discrimination and division because we learn that being authentic is a beneficial part of society. After all, it feels good when we are allowed to be ourselves.

How Gratitude Changes Our Lives

via Daily Prompt: Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful way of changing the way we view life. When we are grateful, we focus on the good in our lives and not the bad. Gratitude is a positive emotion and we focus on being appreciative of others and are more likely to return the kindness. We are more likely to be happy when we are grateful. It makes our relationships stronger and we are less likely to complain about our lives. Showing gratitude helps us accept life as it is.

Ways we can show gratitude:

  • Saying a simple ‘thank you’ when a good turn is done to us by someone else.
  • Waking up every morning and writing down things that make us feel grateful.
  • Sending a gift or buy someone dinner.
  • Give a compliment and tell how much you appreciate a person.
  • Offer to help with doing a task that someone does not like or needs help with.
  • Listen if someone is having problems.
  • Not to be too hard on ourselves.
  • Do something we really enjoy as a treat once in a while.
  • Showing gratitude for material things as well as people so we appreciate what we have achieved.

Showing gratitude is not just about showing it to others but about being kind to ourselves and appreciating our achievements.

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