A Letter to Myself

Photo By Louise MacPherson

Dear Louise,

There are a few things I would like you to know to improve your life.

First of all, I would like you to realise that your autistic son will be well supported and cared for. If you think how far he has come. He will have a bright future and every challenge that he comes across, he will be supported through it. He will stay safe because of the wonderful care he is getting.

Your daughter will grow up to be a wonderful woman. Give her all the support she needs with her dreams and educate her. As well as support at school, teach her how to take care of herself, fulfill her dreams and how to live a happy life. Most of all, teach her to be herself.

I want to tell you to forgive all those who have harmed you. You will suffer from bad experiences and treatment from others. When people are nasty, it is usually issues with themselves and their own problems, you are just someone to take it out on.

Keep motivating yourself each day. Fill your mind with positivity so your mind stays healthy and focused.

Set goals. Not just work goals but relationship goals. Work goals are what you want to achieve in your business. Relationship goals are how you treat people around you, where you want your relationships to go and spending time with the people you love. Also, set goals for things you want to have and what you need.

Spend a little time each day doing something you love. It can be as little as a short walk or a cup of tea in a cafe with your favourite cake.

Learn that you are responsible for your own happiness and thoughts. You are completely in control of your life and if something does not work, change it. You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness. Let them deal with their own feelings.

Do things that you want today, there might not be a tomorrow. You don’t know how much longer you will be here.

Be kind and courteous to others. You want to keep your surroundings positive and have friends to count on. Make an effort with your friends and keep in touch, even if it only means a text message or phone call. Let them know you are thinking about them.

Do not worry unnecessarily about things. Your life will take care of itself. Worrying does not change things. Only you have the power to change things that you can change. If it can’t be changed, accept it. Things we worry about do not usually happen so deal with problems as they arise.

Be true to yourself and be kind to yourself. If something is, it is. Don’t let people take advantage of you, be fair to them and also be fair to yourself.

Always be yourself. Do not change for anyone. People have to accept you for who you are. Happiness comes from being yourself and not having to meet other people’s expectations.

Create lots of happy memories so you can look back. Keep a photo album of memories so it is easier to remember them.

Life is a rocky road so keep moving forward and things will work out fine. You will be strong enough to deal with problems and you will be able to maintain a positive outlook. Remember the Law of Attraction.

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Forgiveness

Photo by Louise MacPherson

We have all had times in our lives when people have hurt us to some degree. Learning to forgive is not an easy thing to do, however, it is better for us to forgive, here is why.

Forgive and forget is not a phrase that is completely accurate in my opinion. While forgiving is the best route to take, we never really forget how people treat us. It does depend on the severity of the action of course. Forgiving gives us a chance to forget the wrong that the person has done us. However, it is up to us to decide how we feel. If we forget, we might let our guard down and the person has the opportunity to harm us again. For example, a business partner betraying us would be a reason to forgive but not forget.

Forgiving is better for our own health and peace of mind. If we hold grudges it affects our thoughts and our health. We are filling our minds with negativity. When we forgive, it puts us in a more positive state of mind.

If we forgive someone who has wronged us we can decide whether we wish to continue to have a relationship with them. We need forgiveness in order to do this. If we choose to continue to have a relationship it will most likely have changed the relationship to some degree so this relationship would need work.

Forgiving a person does give them the chance to correct their error. It also gives them a chance to recognise their wrongs and of course forgive themselves. If the person who committed the wrong does not forget, they are not likely to commit the same mistake again and learn from it.

 

 

 

What’s New This New Year, 2018?

As I move out of 2017 and into the new year 2018, I think about how much I have grown over the past year. My view of life has changed greatly.

I find when I come across any challenges I cope with them better. I do not spend a lot of time feeling upset if something goes wrong. I pick myself up and carry on with what I have to do. This way I will be more productive.

My view of life is altogether more positive. It is more difficult for me to have negative thoughts. I automatically look at every new situation in a positive way. My glass is half full rather than half empty.

I look for the best in people. I focus on their good qualities and not their bad. Each person has good and bad qualities and their bad qualities can be improved. People take this as a great compliment when we are able to overlook their weaknesses.

I am also more drawn to positive media rather than negative. The media is constantly filling our minds with negativity so I stay away from it. There are many good things that happen in the world and we don’t often hear about these.

I am more confident than I used to be. I can act without worrying what people think of me and I feel more in control of each situation.

I have learned to be in control of my own happiness and not to rely on others for it. It is up to me to decide to be happy.

What I have noticed the most is the behaviour of others. How people worry unnecessarily and how they could deal with situations in a more constructive way.

Learning personal development where we learn how to grow as a person is essential for a better quality of life. It improves relationships with others and changes our views on how to deal with situations each day. How good our lives will be depends on how we look at and manage situations. I am looking forward to the year ahead and what new challenges it will bring.

Photo by Louise MacPherson