Words have an incredible power of reinforcing beliefs. The thought is first, then the words you use to support the thought, words then strengthen belief, belief leads to action, then action becomes results. When you say to yourself you ‘can’t do’ something, your words make you believe it. So it is important to say to yourself that you ‘can do’ something so that you will achieve what you want. For example, if you are going to do a talk in front of hundreds of people, first you think about the situation, then you use words such as ‘I am going to forget everything I want to say’ or ‘I am confident that I know everything I am going to talk about’, depending whether your words are positive or negative, you will believe you are going to do well or not, this belief leads to action on how you will perform and your results will be good or bad depending on your performance. The words you use are very important for the outcome.
A good tip is to avoid discussing your goals with people who are negative or people who will not support you. You want to keep feeding your mind with positive thoughts but do not discourage feedback. Share your goals with someone you trust to support you and give you positive feedback, people who are helpful. Telling someone about your goal is a great motivator, you will feel obliged to fulfill it.
Being positive makes you and the people around you feel good. Think the things in your life are great rather than terrible. If you are a positive, lively person, people will be interested in you. Complaining is a waste of everyone’s time and it does not solve anything. We must remember to reflect on everything that is important in our life. If you feel you need to complain about something. It is important to stop, write on a piece of paper everything you are grateful for and everything that is good in your life. If there is something you are not happy with, change it if you can.
Keller, J. (2012). Attitude is everything. (Part 2), East Norwich, NY: Attitude is Everything, Inc.