The friends we choose reflects the sort of person we are. If we spend time with negative people, we will be negative. If we spend time with positive people, we will be positive. It is important to think about the consequences of spending time with certain people. Toxic people are always dwelling on the negative and will emphasise all the things we can’t do as well as refusing to find ways to solve problems. On the other hand, positive people are supportive, lift our spirits and make us feel happy. When we spend time with them, they will make us feel inspired, supported and enthusiastic. If we hear something often enough, we will believe it, so it is best to listen to positive comments and feedback. This does not mean to put people out of our lives that are close to us such as relatives or close friends. It is about keeping in mind the information that we get from them does not affect our well-being. Spend less time with people that do not encourage us and spend more time with people that will teach us how to be successful, how to be positive, that make us feel good and help us.
The best way to develop ourselves is by doing things we are afraid to do. Fears are the challenges that stand in front of our personal growth. It is easier to back away from doing the things that we are frightened of because it relieves the fear and anxiety we feel going through with the task. However, we pay a heavy price from backing out of fears as we sabotage any chances of success, we will feel frustrated and our life will be very dull and boring. Keeping a positive attitude helps us follow through with our fears and fears will die if we confront them.
Success is only impossible when we quit. It is achieved through a step by step process, a little bit at a time. We should not think of giving up and learn to be committed. We must educate ourselves through reading books and talking to successful people. We need to prepare for failure as most people experience failure before success, they learn from their failures . This will encourage us to grow.
To be successful in life, we need to have a positive and enthusiastic attitude. Being involved with others and be a ‘giver’ not always a ‘taker’. Listen to what others have to say about their dreams, their aspirations and offer support and encouragement. Treat everyone as being important, treat them with dignity and respect, go beyond our comfort zone, ask for help and congratulate others on their accomplishments.
Following these points will be the start to a successful future.
Keller, J. (2012). Attitude is everything. (Part 3), East Norwich, NY: Attitude is Everything, Inc.