Work Ethic

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When I think what makes us successful in anything we do, I feel we have to have a good work ethic. Having the discipline to stay focused and keep a regular work schedule can be difficult, however, there are ways to help.

Do a little bit at a time. Taking time out each day to work on what we want to achieve is a great way to stay focused. Having short intervals of productive work is better than a long spell achieving very little.

Keep a diary. Keeping a diary with specific times when we wish to work is a good way to organise our day. Writing down plans for the day ahead means we are more likely to stick to it. We also know when we are going to do each task.

Do something each day. Work on a task each day as it keeps the momentum going. If we sit back one day, it makes it difficult for us to get back into the swing of things.

To not let distractions affect us. When something happens we should not let this throw us off track. Following our routine regardless of how things are that day keeps our momentum going.

Keep the belief that we will succeed. When we keep believing in ourselves, it keeps the correct mindset to work towards what we want. If we do not believe that we will succeed, we will not work towards our goals.

Plan ahead. When we plan, we know exactly what tasks to do and when. If we do not plan, we risk missing out important tasks for that day.

The Steps To Success

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What do we want out of life? What are our goals? Having the urge to do something will help us decide and start to work towards what we want. Creating positive feelings helps us start the road towards our achievements. Feelings are the first step.


Motivate ourselves into working towards our achievements and dreams. Having a reason to work towards goals and planning how to start achieving them. Planning is the second step.


Taking action in order to achieve is essential to success and getting results. Not only taking action but taking the right action to get the right results. Success depends on how much we put into what we want. We will not achieve anything until we act. Action is the third step.


Success is when we have taken the above steps and achieved what we want. This is the final step, a great feeling of accomplishment and we can reap our rewards.

16 Steps Towards Personal Growth


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What is love?

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Love is sharing, with boundaries.

Love is giving, with sincerity.

Love is time, with quality.

Love is good times, with bad times.

Love is family, with friends.

Love is work, with play.

Love is communication, with action.

Love is affection, with self-control.

Love is self-care, with caring for others.

Love is criticism, with constructive.

Love is fun, with responsible.

Love is patience, with understanding.

Love is happiness, with contentment.

Love is freedom, with restriction.

Love is knowing yourself, with finding yourself.

Love is sympathy, with concern.

Love is kindness, with compassion.

Love is influence, without abuse.

Love is acceptance, without judgement.

Love is healing, without pain.

Love is space, without envy.

Love is solving problems, without creating problems.

Love is everything above, without condition.

What does it mean to you?

Author: Louise MacPherson (2018)


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Friendships are a very important part of our lives. We all need healthy friendships and there are reasons why.

Friends give us a different perspective on things from our family members as they are emotionally involved in a different way. For example, in the event of the death of a loved one, a friend will be able to offer support that a family member might not be able to offer because they are grieving. Also, friends usually accept us as we are while our parents can sometimes have expectations of us.

When our family members are not available or do not live nearby, our friends can be there for us. They can be our support. We choose our friends, so they are the people we choose to spend time with and we go to them at times of need.

Our friends are likely to have things in common with us, share similar experiences or share similar interests. They are there for sharing our leisure time. This helps us relax as well as reducing stress because we are focused on the things we enjoy doing.

Friendships give us a sense of belonging as we are part of a group. This makes us feel complete and prevents loneliness. It is fantastic having friends to trust and spend our intimate time together.

What do friendships mean to you?

A Letter to Myself

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Dear Louise,

There are a few things I would like you to know to improve your life.

First of all, I would like you to realise that your autistic son will be well supported and cared for. If you think how far he has come. He will have a bright future and every challenge that he comes across, he will be supported through it. He will stay safe because of the wonderful care he is getting.

Your daughter will grow up to be a wonderful woman. Give her all the support she needs with her dreams and educate her. As well as support at school, teach her how to take care of herself, fulfill her dreams and how to live a happy life. Most of all, teach her to be herself.

I want to tell you to forgive all those who have harmed you. You will suffer from bad experiences and treatment from others. When people are nasty, it is usually issues with themselves and their own problems, you are just someone to take it out on.

Keep motivating yourself each day. Fill your mind with positivity so your mind stays healthy and focused.

Set goals. Not just work goals but relationship goals. Work goals are what you want to achieve in your business. Relationship goals are how you treat people around you, where you want your relationships to go and spending time with the people you love. Also, set goals for things you want to have and what you need.

Spend a little time each day doing something you love. It can be as little as a short walk or a cup of tea in a cafe with your favourite cake.

Learn that you are responsible for your own happiness and thoughts. You are completely in control of your life and if something does not work, change it. You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness. Let them deal with their own feelings.

Do things that you want today, there might not be a tomorrow. You don’t know how much longer you will be here.

Be kind and courteous to others. You want to keep your surroundings positive and have friends to count on. Make an effort with your friends and keep in touch, even if it only means a text message or phone call. Let them know you are thinking about them.

Do not worry unnecessarily about things. Your life will take care of itself. Worrying does not change things. Only you have the power to change things that you can change. If it can’t be changed, accept it. Things we worry about do not usually happen so deal with problems as they arise.

Be true to yourself and be kind to yourself. If something is, it is. Don’t let people take advantage of you, be fair to them and also be fair to yourself.

Always be yourself. Do not change for anyone. People have to accept you for who you are. Happiness comes from being yourself and not having to meet other people’s expectations.

Create lots of happy memories so you can look back. Keep a photo album of memories so it is easier to remember them.

Life is a rocky road so keep moving forward and things will work out fine. You will be strong enough to deal with problems and you will be able to maintain a positive outlook. Remember the Law of Attraction.


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We have all had times in our lives when people have hurt us to some degree. Learning to forgive is not an easy thing to do, however, it is better for us to forgive, here is why.

Forgive and forget is not a phrase that is completely accurate in my opinion. While forgiving is the best route to take, we never really forget how people treat us. It does depend on the severity of the action of course. Forgiving gives us a chance to forget the wrong that the person has done us. However, it is up to us to decide how we feel. If we forget, we might let our guard down and the person has the opportunity to harm us again. For example, a business partner betraying us would be a reason to forgive but not forget.

Forgiving is better for our own health and peace of mind. If we hold grudges it affects our thoughts and our health. We are filling our minds with negativity. When we forgive, it puts us in a more positive state of mind.

If we forgive someone who has wronged us we can decide whether we wish to continue to have a relationship with them. We need forgiveness in order to do this. If we choose to continue to have a relationship it will most likely have changed the relationship to some degree so this relationship would need work.

Forgiving a person does give them the chance to correct their error. It also gives them a chance to recognise their wrongs and of course forgive themselves. If the person who committed the wrong does not forget, they are not likely to commit the same mistake again and learn from it.




What’s New This New Year, 2018?

As I move out of 2017 and into the new year 2018, I think about how much I have grown over the past year. My view of life has changed greatly.

I find when I come across any challenges I cope with them better. I do not spend a lot of time feeling upset if something goes wrong. I pick myself up and carry on with what I have to do. This way I will be more productive.

My view of life is altogether more positive. It is more difficult for me to have negative thoughts. I automatically look at every new situation in a positive way. My glass is half full rather than half empty.

I look for the best in people. I focus on their good qualities and not their bad. Each person has good and bad qualities and their bad qualities can be improved. People take this as a great compliment when we are able to overlook their weaknesses.

I am also more drawn to positive media rather than negative. The media is constantly filling our minds with negativity so I stay away from it. There are many good things that happen in the world and we don’t often hear about these.

I am more confident than I used to be. I can act without worrying what people think of me and I feel more in control of each situation.

I have learned to be in control of my own happiness and not to rely on others for it. It is up to me to decide to be happy.

What I have noticed the most is the behaviour of others. How people worry unnecessarily and how they could deal with situations in a more constructive way.

Learning personal development where we learn how to grow as a person is essential for a better quality of life. It improves relationships with others and changes our views on how to deal with situations each day. How good our lives will be depends on how we look at and manage situations. I am looking forward to the year ahead and what new challenges it will bring.

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